With a shortage of black men, listen as these African-American women discuss with ABC News the obstacles in finding a man that is ready for marriage. Why are these women single and not able to find a man? Are there standards too high? Should they look outside their race? Or are the women in the video just too full of themselves? Let me know what you think about the situation that the women in this video face.
So what are your thoughts on this interview?
ReplyDeletedo you feel like black females have too have of a standard when it comes to dating or finding Mr. right?
What i have notice about the black man is that he's will to settle down but not commit himself 100% because he wants to have his ice and cake and hot dog and chips and soda as well. 9 times out of 10 black males only settle down because their homies have relattionships and they dont want to feel left out but yet they still cheat on their girlfriends. what i am trying to understand is this. why get in a relationship if you are not willing to be 100% faithful to the one your with? why would you want the female your with thinking she has a gold mine and when she's dealing with a dog. so i can see why a lot of black females standards are so high and why they would look out side of their race for a good man to be married to. what i would also like to know is this. why are our black man are afraid of marriage? if you have been dating someone for 2+ years and living together why not take the next step in the relationship? to me that sounds like the black male is afraid of the next step. that's why their's so many back females that are still single out there. it's not because we choose to be it's because the black male can't get his shit together!!
I totally agree. we have to have higher standards because of so many black cheating and cant commit. that's why i date outside of my race.
ReplyDeleteLets not be fooled ladies. yes we know that their is a shortage of good black males out there but who wnats to put up with a DOG! the black man will never grt his shit together. they want what they can get from a woman and then leave them heartbroken. and that's when we go looking outside of our race. THE BLACK MAN WILL NEVER CHANGE!! HE WILL ALWAYS BE A DOG!
ReplyDeleteumm, wow all black men are not dogs, and maybe the ones you have been with did not want YOU and just went the wrong way about dealing with it..those same black men have more than likely settled down with other women and treat them just fine. Is your black dad a dog, all the black men in your family are they dogs, really how deep does your black men are dogs stem? Perhaps you need some therapy to deal with these emotions that have you hating a whole group of people. Maybe these black men you are dating see your undercover(or not so undercover) hatred for them and are reacting to that... NO I dont think it's okay to dip out on your spouse, girlfriend, or partner, but to point the finger at all black men and call them out side their name, is really immature and you may need to look inside yourself a little deeper. What is really scary here is if you are raising a black male or female these kids will be emotionally messed up as well... The black male will for sure either date outside his race to get away from any remnants of you or treat other black woman with disdain and the black female will be another angry black woman just like you.. So SAD an unhealthy cylce repeated again
ReplyDeletemaybe it's not an uncover and maybe i know from expernice and maybe its what i seen my friends go through. we know that a black male has problems with srtting down to one female. it's also common knowledge that when their friends setting down that their arent faithful to the one he's with. but you seem to think i am wrong on this but i know i am right. not bitter but opening the eyes of our black females out there. so take it how you want.
ReplyDeleteto all the black female who have blog on this topic and voice your thoughts on this. great. but please dont forget that we need to work on our self as well. we can be a bit much and nagging and non trusting our black man. if you dont have one there is a number of reasons why you dont have one. so work on your self before you start ranting and sounding just plain stupid. to all my black start working on yourself first before you start pointing the finger at someone.
ReplyDeleteFirst things first, learn how to type. SPELL CHECK please.
ReplyDeleteI am glad somebody notice the errors! but i do understand where anonymous is coming and totally agree.
ReplyDeleteLOL all the comments are anonymous
ReplyDeletethese blog s@%t is another faze! we have gone from having myspace to facebook to know this blogging. what a joke and a waste of time! the females on here blogging sound angry and sad and depress. WHY WASTE YOUR TIME ON THIS B.S.!
ReplyDeleteTHESE FEMALES NEED TO FIND A REAL MAN TO DICK THEM DOWN!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteBlack women have such the worst ATTITUDE! No wonder they are still single. they should learn from us and how we treat the black man that's coming home to us. so please stop accusing us of stealing your BLACK MAN! work on yourself first and learn how to treat your black man like the king that he's.
ReplyDeleteI KNOW WHY THERE'S SUCH A SHORTAGE OF BLACK MALES. WE ARE SICK N TRIED OF BLACK FEMALES ATTITUDES!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ALL WE WANT TO DO IS GO TO WORK AND COME HOME TO A REAL HOME COOK MEAL AND CHILL N RELAX AND A LITTLE FUN UNDER THE SHEETS AND JUST BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE. SHIT IF I AM PAYING HALF ON EVERYTHING THEN STOP ALL THE NAGGING BECAUSE WE ARE DOING MORE THEN MOST BLACK MALES OUT THEIR. LET ME SCHOOL YA REALLY QUICK. YOU HAVE 2 TYPES OF BLACK GUYS. THE FIRST ONE IS THE ONE THAT WILL LAY UP WITH YOU AND NOT PAY ANY RENT AND MAY/ MAY NOT HAVE A JOB. THAT'S THE ONE THAT WILL TELL YOU FEMALES WHATEVER HE NEEDS TO KEEP A ROOF OVER HIS HEAD.AND HE WILL NOT HELP YOU WITH YOUR KIDS BUT IN RETURN HE WANTS YOU TO TAKE CARE OF HIS KIDS. AND WANT YOU TO KEEP HIS POCKETS LINE UP WITH MONEY. THE SECOND ONE IS THE ONE WHO GETS UP AND GO TO WORK AND HELP YOU OUT AND PUTS HALF ON THE RENT, BILLS, AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE MONEY IN YOU POCKETS. AND HE WILL BE TAKING CARE OF YOUR KIDS AND HIS KIDS AS WELL. THIS TYPE OF GUYS WANTS MORE OUT OF LIFE AND WANTS A FEMALE THAT WANTS THE SAME THING. *********** THIS IS WHY THEIR IS A SHORTAGE OF GOOD BLACK MALES BECAUSE THEIR IS A SHORTAGE OF REAL GOOD BLACK FEMALES OUT THERE!!!!!!***************************
ReplyDeleteSO LADIES GET IT TOGETHER LADIES!!
GOOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL.
okay ladies if you are that STUPID to let a n*gg*a live rent free and you have kids.. then something is mentally wrong with you! like mr. anonymous said above their our 2 types of n*gg*as. 1st one is a no good for nothing n*gg*a and the 2nd one is the one you want to hold on to. so to my beautiful black queens out there dont be STUPID! be smart!
ReplyDeletepeace-love-and happiness.
lol! this blog site is a trip. but i was reading all the comments on here and wanted to add a little something to the mix. ladies if you have kids and a man then dont let him stay under your roof rent free. you need to be worried about how that looks to your kids seeing you doing everything for this man thats not even helping you out around the house. we want so much to have a man in our lifes that we are willing to take care of him while he is not helping out. if we continue allowing the black male to not take on any responsibilities and disabling him. he will continue to use us for everything. and the sad thinng there is alot of females out there allowing the black to use them. sorry but its true. the other sad part is some of us think thats the only way we can hold on to a man if we allow him to live rent free but you dont want that you want someone who is going to help you and be a real man. not a fucking looser! thats why history keeps repeating itself we bring life into the world and the baby girls see what their momma is doing and thinks that is what you have to do to keep a man.wrong! lets brake the cycle and show our girls and sons the right way and how things should be.
ReplyDeletei pray for my black sistas out there letting these black brothas live rent free. you really need a guy that bad? if you do then maybe you deserve that type of black brotha living with you and if you have kids then shame on you. i pray for my black sistas to get it together and realize a relationship is 50/50 and not a 100% on us black sistas. stop getting caught up with what a black brotha is saying to you because the words that comes out of his mouth is lies to keep us sistas doing it all. dont fall for it be strong and stand your ground. focus on you and your kids. you will find the right black brotha soon enough.
ReplyDeletewell,well what do we have here. a black male that wont put a ring on his girlfriend finger but dont mind living under here roof..being lazy! oh how i wish the black females would get their shit together and throw their no good lazy poor excuse of a so called man to the crub! these loosers come in our lives to become freeloaders and not shit but lay up and do whatever they please to do. LADIES GROW A FUCKING BACKBONE!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIF YOUR SINGLE LADIES.........STAY THAT WAY TO YOU FIND MR.RIGHT!!!!
ReplyDeleteI would rather have a man living with me rent free then not have a man at all. call me stupid but my man comes home to me every night. i dont care what he does when he leaves the house just as long as he comes home to me every night. DO I HAVE A BACKBONE? NO! DO I CARE? NO! AM I STUPID? HELL NO! AND YES! DO I CARE? NO! I HAVE A MAN AND THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS TO ME. SO SAY WHATEVER I DON'T CARE!
ReplyDeleteLadies if you have low self esteem about yourself and need a man in your life that bad to make you fill whole, then you deserve what you get. I am sorry but if you have a man under your roof not paying rent and you have kids... your stupid! and what's so sad is that he knows you have low self esteem and feeds off of that. when will you learn ladies that a man dont want girlfriend but a momma to take of him. back in the day the men went to work and paid the bills and rent but now a days the ladies are going to work and holding down the household. Just dont understand why you young black females would put up with a no good man in your life.Its so frustrating to read your comments about allowing your so called man living rent free. i dont understand this. Me and my dude was reading the comments together and he was like any man that's living rent free with a female that has kids is a punk ass sucka fo real. I totally understand ladies that you want a man in your life but not a man that's going to take advantage of you and your kids. you see these type of guys know if they mess up or you put them out they haven't invested anything so they loose nothing at all. ladies get smart and find a real.
ReplyDeleteNot a man that was living at his mommas house and wasnt doing anything and when you get tried you have to take him back to his mommas house. A real man has his own from the start.
You ladies on here are sad! if you allow a man to run all over you and make a fool out of you, then you deserve everything you get and how he treats you. like the welcome mat you are!
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